Letter from a psychologist / My 6-year-old daughter quarrels a lot. What can I do to calm her down!
2020-07-13 11:54:00
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Greetings!
I am the mother of a 6 year old girl, who occasionally shows aggression in her behavior. He often quarrels, cries, shouts loudly. She seems to be stressed and expresses it aggressively. I don’t know how to behave in this situation. As long as I continue like this, I do not understand her behavior. What do you think? Thank you.
Thank you for the question!
Children up to a certain age naturally want to be the center of attention of those who care for them. Emotions are difficult for children to recognize and manage. The causes of children's anger can be endless. They get angry because they can’t do certain things, because they’re tired, because they can’t sleep, because they’re hungry, because they want to eat what they want. Patience is required, but always maintain authority without it, inhibitory brakes will be difficult to form with serious consequences on the child's future. Sometimes the causes of anger can be very deep and very serious, it can be anger that comes from an unmet need. If a child shows nervousness they may be nervous because in the family for some reason the emotional climate is more anxious.
At that point we must first try to calm them down.
Embracing them and speaking gently. In some cases, our hug can be "tricky" because they are struggling with anger, but we should try to be calm, steady, and convey calm. It is absolutely important to devote time and energy to teaching appropriate behavior to replace inappropriate behavior. When the child is calm, we take a moment to calmly discuss it with him. We can use a story, some drawings. Slowly, slowly try to understand why it does so.
Never beat him. A child is never beaten, neither slightly nor slowly. Never!
Punishment is also wrong.
Keeping calm and a loving approach to the situation is an example of the correct behavior to teach your child, the most effective way to calm him down and help him to actually reduce his anger. Personally my opinion is that this is a transitional stage that with your dedication I will pass. Good parents./ Dritare.net
Enertila Bekteshi, Clinical Psychologist
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